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“What do you need to say that you haven't said?”
This question is from an article by Bernie Siegel. Most of the article was just a rehash of the old idea that we co-create our lives. If we do so from a loving point of view, we create a better life than if we come from hate. Yes, but that's hardly original. Siegel admits this, saying “My writing and today's books have nothing new to say. We may have new stories but they are only repeating ancient wisdom.”
But the article provided some questions to provoke thought and enlightenment, one of which I've quoted above. This question got me thinking.
Most of the time, we feel compelled to say the same old things we've been saying all along: favorite complaints, wishes, stock emotions, or whatever. (When we've known someone a long time, we can often anticipate their next statement, and, to be honest, they can probably guess ours too.) But we still feel the need to say these things. They make us comfortable. They sound right to us. Perhaps we think if we say them long enough, the world will change. That's not likely, of course, because all we're doing is reinforcing our existing beliefs and thereby reinforcing the world we've already created.
But what about things that we need to say but haven't said? The hidden things. The things that are too emotional, too scary, too shameful, too “out there,” too unspeakable to admit to others – or even to ourselves. We've never said them. Why not?
Some thoughts may be new, but I think a lot will be extensions to the same old stories we've been telling. They are “alternative endings” – something that might force us to take a new look at our core beliefs – the ultimate in scary.
Just one personal example. I frequently think to myself: “I must do something significant with my life. A mundane life is a wasted life. I must work harder to become significant.” But the alternative ending that I never say is: “Probably I will never do anything significant. I haven't yet and the years are marching on. Unless something changes, I am and will be a complete failure.”
Well, there it is. “Unless something changes.” I've been trying my whole life to do significant things, but haven't achieved any. Simply trying harder is not a change. The change, if I care to make it, needs to be in my core beliefs: “A mundane life is not a failure. There are other ways to define success in life than being notable for some achievement. Think about that.”
Now, I haven't actually changed my beliefs at this point. Not only do I still see myself as a failure, but I see most other people as one too. But making myself come face to face with this belief at least makes me begin to question it. And maybe change it. And if I do so, perhaps co-create a different life.
Topic For The Week: What do you need to say that you haven't said?
Ponder this for a while. What do you avoid telling yourself? What might happen if you spoke it aloud?

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